For some people, making a first impression is easy. They just have “it,” that thing that makes people instantly attracted to them whether it is their self-confidence, sense of humor or just their looks. If this doesn’t come naturally to you, like it doesn’t for most, then please don’t be discouraged because I am going to share with you just how to make a lasting first impression with a woman!
The best first impressions I’ve encountered were from people who are engaged, smiling, dressed well, and complimented me. That might seem vain, but we’re all a little vain to some extent. And we love nothing more than to talk about ourselves. So go out when you are in the mood to mingle because if you don’t feel like being there, people can tell.
Your body language pretty much gives you away in this arena. If you’re closed off, not smiling, not engaging with anyone, then chances are you seem highly unapproachable. And a good rule of thumb is if you go into a situation fixated on your own discomfort, that is the vibe that you will give off.
Instead, try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to understand that the truth of the matter is that they are probably as equally uncomfortable as you. Given this scenario, it is your job to be the engaging one to lighten the mood and set the tone for the conversation.
Step 1: Give them your undivided attention
The first way to be unforgettable is to give someone your full attention. Giving someone your full attention means putting your phone away—snap chat and Instagram can wait! It also means having strong eye contact, looking people in the eye when they speak as opposed to all around the room because that lets people know you are disinterested.
Step 2: Remember their name
Another key to making a good first impression is to remember people’s names. If that isn’t a skill you already possess, you should make it a top priority. It should be easy when you meet someone you like, but we can get so caught up in our own heads that names don’t always stick.
For example, I think it is especially important if you are meeting your crush’s friends to remember their names. If you want any relationship to last, putting effort into that will benefit you and will make you more likable because people love the sound of their own name. And the best way to increase someone’s like for you is to have their friends like you too. Remembering their names goes a long way here and is one of the key aspects of mastering small talk.
Step 3: Ask questions
Ok, another way to make people feel good about themselves is to divert the conversation their way. Focus on others, not yourself, and you will find that you have made other people comfortable being around you; therefore, they will most likely want to continue being around you.
Step 4: Remember to smile
Smiling also helps in this area, but not a Cheshire cat smile, because, well, that would turn any woman off. But having a confident, natural smile will make you seem like the most approachable guy in whichever situation you find yourself.
Step 5: Compliment them
Another way to set yourself apart from the crowd is to compliment your crush on something that elicits conversation. I would advise against complimenting on something that they are genetically predisposed to like eye color, height, natural skin glow.
Women make a lot of decisions when it comes to our appearance, clothes, shoes, jewelry, etcetera. If you compliment a woman on something that seems chosen, you are more likely to invite a conversation about how she came to own that piece of jewelry or that handbag. It is important to be genuine here. We can’t have any of that mean girl talk when you compliment something that you actually hate, don’t tell her that her purse is “fetch.”
Compliment something you genuinely like about her and that doesn’t always have to be something physical, but if you are just meeting a girl, chances are you are going off what you see, unless she has some uncanny ability to let you get to know her in a matter of seconds. Chances are you will go off of looks, but something that looks like she chose it is a really good place to start and strike up a conversation.
Remember that mastering the compliment is key if you want to flirt without being creepy.
I hope that all of these tips help you out the next time you are feeling nervous about venturing out to meet the woman of your dreams!