What’s that one thing that is on and or near the top of everyone’s dating criteria? Aside from looks, what do people want in a partner? If you thought a good sense of humour then you get where I’m going with this.
We’ve all met that person that is offended by everything. From your footwear to the scent in a room, there is just no pleasing them. Those types of people are lacking a sixth sense, a sense of humor. Conversations with such people are the equivalent to bathing in a tub of broken glass. Some people take life way, way, way too seriously, and it is saddening. That is not how you want people to think about you. As the Greeks say, “life is far too important to be taken seriously.”
Luckily, there is a way to develop a sense of humor! Just in case you are lacking in that department, I thought I would help you climb the dating hierarchy by giving you some tips that you can use to improve your sense of humor and personality, how to be that funny guy that women all want to be around.
Alright, I took a poll amongst my male clients and asked them what they wanted to learn most, and the general consensus was how to be more desirable. And I thought, yes, ok, but the further I got into it, I began to think that the thing people have the most control over is what they say and how they say it. This is when it hit me that this is your sense of humor and personality.
And I don’t want to hear any of that, “But I’m not funny” kind of talk. Everyone is funny when in the right environment. And what I mean by that is that you are, essentially, the company you keep. If you hang out with people who are negative and who have a dark rain cloud of a personality and can bring down even the Dalai Lama’s mood, then you, my friend, have soul-sucking company, and it’s time to distance yourself. This brings me to my first piece of advice: spend time with funny and happy people.
Stalk Funny People
When you spend time with people, their qualities and/or moods tend to rub off on you. And thus, you are the company that you keep. So keep good, funny company.
Having a good sense of humor is like having unlimited resources, no matter the situation. It elevates you to the top tier of the dating hierarchy. Since you don’t have total control over your genetic makeup, and how you look, take control of how you look at life, that is, your attitude, your personality.
Having a sense of humor means that you appreciate jokes and can perceive them. It means that you’re amused by a lot of things as opposed to being serious all the time. Remember that for those who laugh, life is a comedy. For those who cry, it’s a tragedy. Both are attitudes, ways of looking at the world and at the self.
Laugh At Yourself
My second piece of advice to improve your sense of humor, then, is to develop an ability to laugh at yourself. Have you ever met a guy who does something so stupid, and instead of just laughing it off, he gets so hurt that he looks like he’s going to cry?
It’s actually so funny, but not in the haha that guy is so funny and kinda cute way, but more in the haha, oh no I feel bad for you way. Having the ability to laugh at yourself and make mistakes is refreshing, and it lightens any mood. Women respond really well to this because it puts them at ease and demonstrates that you’re confident and have the alpha male mindset.
Say you’re on a date with a woman, and you knock over your glass of red wine and it gets all over your crotch. Instead of wanting to curl up in a ball and crawl in a hole and completely disappear, laugh! Grab a cloth and some soda water dab up the wine and laugh it off. That kind of confidence and ability to roll with the punches will make any woman’s heart melt.
Whatever kind of ooopsy woopsy you do in front of a crush, laugh at yourself. It’s awkward as heck when you watch someone who is visibly nervous on a date, but if you can learn to not take yourself so seriously than any woman will feel at ease with you and enjoy your resilient personality. This type of guy is one of the most likable of all. It shows confidence, resilience and a good sense of humor.
Think of it this way, you know when you hear a cheesy add of an old couple being interviewed about the secret to a long-lasting marriage and how the answer is always laughter. Everyone wants to be with someone that makes them laugh. It is a historical fact that our personalities will outlive our young physiques.
I know that not everyone has the Will Ferrell, Kristen Wiig sense of humor and improvisation skills. That is why they get paid the big bucks. But you can be funny in your own right if you just let yourself be.
I’m not advocating that you be the funniest person out there. I’m just suggesting that you try to improve your sense of humor if you’re feeling a little down and out in the dating world.
Watch Funny Shows
The third point I have for you is that if you want to learn to be funny, then watch funny people. Watch comedy specials, sitcoms, Saturday Night Live. There are so many outlets accessible to you to watch funny people interact in the world.
If you’re watching this video right now, then you have access to YouTube, so find some comedy skits and study how comedians observe the natural, often mundane, world and turn it into something extraordinarily funny. How they observe seemingly normal things and comment on their obscurities or absurdities.
Don’t Use Humour To Put People Down… Unless They Deserve It
Alright, and my fourth piece of advice is a caution, don’t tell jokes that bring other people down. That is, don’t tell racist jokes or mean jokes that target the most insecure person in the group just so that you get a laugh. That is the lowest form of comedy, and it’s not going to make her want you.
Humor is a sign of intelligence; it’s a learned, mature coping skill, and women are attracted to both of those qualities. Therefore, if you want to improve your dating game, then I suggest you work on your sense of humor.