Lately I’ve been getting a lot of messages from you guys about how to kiss a girl. I’ve thought about this for quite some time. My first thought was, “OMG! You can practice on your hand,” or if that’s not your style, then a teddy bear like I did when I was younger and trying to figure out how to kiss. But then I thought kissing inanimate objects is probably not the best course of action. So I have some legitimate advice for you on how to kiss a girl and how to be unforgettable doing so.
The first thing I recommend you do when you are about to kiss a girl is to be calm! Chill out! Or at least try and calm yourself down. Sometimes, if you are a little nervous, it can be endearing to a girl. And, other times, if you are just sweating profusely and shaking, it can kind of be a turn off. Try and give yourself a confidence boost before you head into a situation where kissing is a possibility.
Try a personal pep talk where you let yourself know that you are a stellar dude who’s going to kiss the crap out of a girl and make it beyond memorable. The worst thing that is going to happen is that you flop, and the kiss sucks, but that just means you try again. So have some confidence and just go for it.
The second thing that is important about having a memorable kiss is having good breath. This is the prep work before you play tonsil hockey. This is pretty easy to accomplish, just keep some breath mints and/or gum on hand. Along with the prep work before a good kiss, it wouldn’t hurt to invest in a chap stick. If you don’t want to go out with glossy lips, no problem, apply it at night before you go to bed. Having soft lips will also set you apart from the crowd and help to make your kiss memorable and enjoyable for the lady on the receiving end.
The third piece of advice when leaning in for the kiss is that wetter isn’t necessarily better in this case. Try to contain the moisture levels coming out of your mouth; you don’t want to drown your crush. Remember, again, that EVERYONE is different. And that means that they will kiss differently. So don’t get discouraged if it takes you a second to find your rhythm.
To start kissing, begin with some soft slow kisses, and you can build the intensity from there. Instead of going in full force with some tongue, put the other person’s lower lip in between yours and linger a little bit. And now that you are kissing, you should probably add some body contact. You can do multiple things, rest your hand on her cheek or where her hairline meets her neck or the small of her back. Whatever comes naturally to you and feels appropriate for the situation.
I can’t give you a prescriptive step by step set of rules to follow exactly to achieve the most memorable kiss because everyone is different and everyone kisses differently. I can only give you the tools to succeed and to apply to the different kissing situations in which you find yourself. But by using these tips, and doing it in your own way, you will be unique and memorable.
And, finally, mix it up a bit. Don’t keep your head in the same place or your hands or your mouth for that matter! And have fun! Kissing is fun!